What is a life lesson you feel everyone can benefit from learning?
Honestly, it’s a philosophy I have said a few times to some friends of mine, and even to the unstable guy that I lived with (space sharing, not romantic sharing) in Toronto a few years ago when he was upset about the people who lived upstairs:
If it doesn’t affect you physically or mentally, it’s not something you should comment on.
I think a lot of people would be a lot happier if they followed this mentality.
For instance, people causing a fuss about others being in common-law relationships. Does it put you in physical danger or harm that they are in a committed relationship with someone they deeply love and are raising children together without a piece of paper that says they are “married”? No? Is it mental abuse to you that they are doing this? No? Ok, great, don’t worry about it!
The person I used to share my living space with was very unstable as I’m sure you’ll remember if you were reading my posts from back then. He was complaining to the landlord that the people upstairs would leave dryer sheets on the floor of the laundry room. Did he have to clean the laundry room? No. Did it affect his ability to do his laundry? Also no. Yet it was a HUGE thing for him. Like dude, let it go. And in all fairness, it started because their 14 year old son was put in charge of the laundry. The mom was pregnant and it was a pandemic and they were honestly just teaching their son to be a productive member of society by learning to do his own laundry. And they hated the downstairs guy. So when they learned it was an issue, they had their son clean it up but then also gave him permission to leave the sheets on the floor every now and then. It did get a little out of control so I spoke to the mom once or twice being like “hey, there are a TON of sheets all over the floor” and the next day it would be all cleaned up haha.
Although, as someone who tries to do this, let me tell you it is a lot harder than it seems LOL Like does it affect me physically or mentally that my brother and his fiancee (and a big portion of the Christian community) has some sort of bias towards a few different communities? No. It does not. But I will still argue with them and create a fuss. So yeah, I can admit I’m a hypocrite on this life lesson sometimes haha! But I’m also ok with that!