Guys, I’m a little upset so come along for this ride with me.
On this, the day of my brother’s birthday, let me tell you some more things about why his fiancee is just ugh.
A week ago, my brother and I had our monthly sibling dinner. Well, I want it to be monthly, I’m hoping we can get into the habit. Anyway, while together he gave me my wedding invitation. Of course, their colours are the exact same that I was planning on using when/if I ever get married, which I had mentioned to him to maybe try to stay away from but nopes, so I’m a little annoyed. But even more so, here are the things that were wrong with the invitation, which I am blaming solely on her because she has had this whole thing planned for many years apparently and is taking control of the plans.
- No RSVP information. I completely understand not having an extra card and envelope and stuff for the RSVP for the wedding. Just give me an email to reply to and a date by which to do it. But there was none of this information on the invitation. I said “no RSVP card?” and he’s like “you don’t need it, you’re going” which is true LOL but still, other people will need to let them know? Not even a date that they needed to know by.
- No registry information. I had to ask my brother for this information and then also emailed it to my parents. The couple has a registry, but how are people suppose to know? It’s not included in the wedding information.
- Dress code confusion. I had my dress picked out about a month ago. It’s been in my closet since 2014, I have never worn it, I look like fire wrapped in awesomeness on a stick in it, gonna throw on knee high boots to amp up the vava voom and I’m gonna look amazing. Then I read the invitation and it says “black tie affair”. My dress is a cocktail dress. Not black tie. So I ask my brother what that means. He says the fiancee says “black and white” UM WHAT?! So not only is she asking people to wear formal attaire only, we can only choose between black and white? What bride asks people to wear white to their wedding? Or only black? It’s going to be like a funeral. So I said that doesn’t make sense and I don’t need their colours, I need to know what vibe it is to determine the style of dress I am going to wear and if I need to actually go out and buy a dress (ugh the horror). He said he didn’t even know what he’s wearing and I was more than welcome to ask HER. Which is what I was avoiding. So I put on my big girl pants and sent her a message on facebook. She replied “our theme colours are black, white, and gold accents. So that’s the vibe. We were going to have a dress code but that to me felt like a bit much lol. So orginally we were going to ask everyone to wear black and white, but now honestly it’s just wear whatever” SO HOW EXACTLY DOES THAT TRANSLATE TO BLACK TIE?!?!?! Again just telling me colours schemes? I passed along that information to my mom since she wanted to know as well and I told her I will be wearing jeans and a crop top since I’m allowed to “just wear whatever” and she said she’d disown me. I will be wearing my cocktail dress and looking fly. For those of you who don’t understand the confusion, please refer to this handy little picture which I thought was just common knowledge for anyone who has any idea about weddings.
And yes, for the record, I *will* be having a dress code for my wedding. Festive or semi-formal. Right now I am totally vibing with a cute morning/brunch cocktail-type wedding.
So there ya have it, the problems I had with their wedding invitations haha.