Aaron’s word of inspiration this week is Valentine.
In all my years on this earth, I have only really had one proper Valentine’s Day. It was last year. I was with the booty call and he came over the day after, brought me cute little chocolate roses and we had a nice movie watching date.
Of course, all our dates were movie watching dates.
It was nice and unexpected.
But it was also unneeded.
When it happened I was kind of blown away. I tend to date guys who aren’t so sentimental and the connection that I had with booty call wasn’t exactly what I would call overly romantic. His nickname is booty call for goodness sake! Not in the traditional sense of just coming over for sex, but we were always on his schedule and only ever hung out in my room watching movies. It was in no way a “relationship.”
Anyway, it was nice all the same.
And it also kind of makes me want to hold others up to that same standard of niceness. Now, I’m not saying that I expect gifts or whatever from partners, but the gesture was so sweet and simple. That’s what I like. I don’t need to be fawned over, and won’t demand it, and will tell you to stop if that’s your style. It’s not mine. Gift getting is not my love language.
Each guy that I connect myself with, I learn a little bit more about myself. And while I still hold firm to the idea that Valentine’s Day is sham and puts too many unrealistic pressures on couples, I did learn that I like when a partner shows a little surprise effort in our connection. It was a really nice thing to learn and experience π
This year, as all the rest, there is no Valentine in my life. Unless you count my students. They give me cards and things and lots said Happy Valentine’s Day when we ended lessons on Wednesday. Last year they were my ducklings. This year my classes are my love bugs. And in my usual over the top bubbliness, we made love bugs together on Wednesday in our last online lesson before going back to in-person learning on Tuesday!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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We are not doing anything over the top this year either. I made breakfast for the hubby (something I don’t usually do) who is having some reaction to the Covid vaccine we got on Friday. I feel fine but he got a little achy and tired. That’s probably the extent of it. I guess after 36 years we don’t really need to get mushy anymore. Besides, I say he is my Valentine every day, not just one day a year.
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Awww that’s sweet! And I hope he feels better soon! Was it his second dose? I heard it hits pretty hard for some people.
My Valentines was having my mom guilt me about not liking Valentine’s Day. Its a yearly tradition. She sends things via email, I ignore them, my brother tells her to stop and to respect that he’s asked every year for at least 10 years for her to stop, she sends both of us a huge “you’re making me sad and What do you want from me because I try and try and you hate everything and i can do nothing right” text message ππ€¦ββοΈ
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Yes, I have a daughter who does not like Valentine’s Day either. I just sent her a text that said, “I love you” and that was it.
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Its not that I don’t like it, I just don’t think its necessary when you’re not in a relationship. I think your way is good. Its respectful and can be done on any day to remind her you love her.
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Also, it was our first dose. I have heard the second brings more symptoms so we’ll see. I was fine.
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Oh I’m glad you’re ok! And hope your husband feels better βΊοΈ
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