So if you hadn’t noticed from my blog, and my always writing without using my real name, I like to keep my private life private. Possibly not so much on this blog since I share all my personal stories, but I never write with my real name so the privacy is still kind of there.
As a teacher, it’s very important to keep my social media private. Social media can destroy careers sometimes. Mine definitely wouldn’t, but I still don’t want parents to find me and try to add me. My personal Instagram and my Facebook are all private. I keep the settings high to keep away unwanted followers.
My aunt added me last week and then a little bit later, I get a message from this lady saying who she was and that she was my mom’s friend and knows my aunt.
So I check in with my mom and she is actually my mom’s friend. Like her best friend from when she was younger.
I go back to Facebook and she had tried to add me as a friend and that’s why she sent the message. I get it that she wants to connect but why? I have no idea who this woman is. I know I have met her before but not in over 20 years. I legit could not pick her out from a crowd.
I don’t want to add her, but I also can’t not add her. My parent’s generation isn’t like that. So I added her. Thankfully I don’t put a lot on my Facebook anyways. So no real problem there. I just don’t like boradcasting my whole life over social media for everyone to see. I don’t get how others can do that? Maybe I’m just a secretive person?
Anyway, so I added her and had a very awkward chat with her and now she is commenting on everything and I’m stuck with her. Not too much I can do about it now. She even welcomed me to Facebook. “or have you been on for a while”. Ummm yes I have had Facebook for about 15 years. “Oh but you just popped up now”. ???? Because if we have no friends in common, don’t live in the same place, and don’t share any connections, why would facebook suggest me as a friend to you? It must obviously be that I just joined. Since my privacy settings are so high, only friends of friends will get me as a suggestion.
BUT adding her did unlock a lot of friend suggestions for cousins from my mom’s side! So that’s been nice. My family isn’t really the closest family around and I try to reach out to my cousins when I can just to keep in contact so that will be nice.
How about you? Would you have added someone like this? Do you keep your social media private or open?