Okies so if you missed the first post I made just two short days ago, you’ll need to catch up. You can do that by clicking these pink words. It will open a new tab and then you can just come right back and read this.
For those of you all caught up – he’s at it AGAIN!
So my roommate has always been particular. I say always as if I’ve known him forever, but really I only moved in on July 27th. So it’s been 2.5 months. When I moved in he was basically like “this is what I’ve found works best for living with people” and I was all “ok, cool, let’s not rock the boat and go with what works” which was fine for the first month because honestly most of the things he brought up were good ideas but then the crazy started to happen. I guess people can only hold in their crazy for so long until it starts to seep out.
So like the first thing as he’s a light sleeper and the people upstairs keep him up and then ALSO apparently I’ve been waking him up too – cos I’ll get up to go to the bathroom at like 2ish or so, and the door sticks in the frame so when I open it, that noise is jarring him out of sleep. But he won’t wear ear plugs OH NO! Because what if there is a fire alarm? He needs his senses. And then I was doing this weird or that weird or whatever. So each time I listen and then kind of be like “yeah ok, sorry” and try to be better. Cos we have to live together for the next year and that totally sucks if one person isn’t up to making a few compromises to make everything work.
In his defense: he’s been great in the mornings. I have to get up and out at a certain time and he is always respectful of not being in the bathroom and stuff when I’m trying to get ready for work. Since he doesn’t have a job right now, that’s easy for him.
But then all this crazy happened – the bathroom door, complaining about everything! Then of course there was last week’s text messages. And then yesterday morning.
So when I go to sleep (earlier than him) I close the door to the kitchen because the light streams under my door. I just need it closed while I fall asleep. If I wake up in the middle of the night and it’s open that’s cool, it’s just that initial getting to sleep. But apparently if its closed then it tricks the thermostat and it greats really hot in his bedroom. He brought it up yesterday morning. So last night I close the door at 9 because I am CRASHING HARD and I go to bed. 10-minutes later it’s opened again.
I’m already in bed. In my pj’s, wig off, snuggled in. So I get up, throw my wig back on and go and close the door. Since I’m so tired and not wanting to wait for him to come back from wherever he went, I sent him a text, and then went back to bed trying to fall asleep. Read what happened:
So basically it’s whatever he wants or nothing.
This morning I was up at 7 like normal and getting ready for church. He was already up and cooking stuff and he came out of his room and was like “so are we good with the door and stuff” and I’m tired and cranky because of him and I should have taken the time to have a calm conversation with him but at that point I was done. Also had kind of been going over in my mind what I wanted to say to him so it was there and ready to come out.
I told him no. That there was no reason to be so rude with the text and that he could have just said sorry and that I was just saying if the door is closed to keep it closed while I fall asleep so if he’s going out just make sure he closes it behind him as he goes out. Of course I didn’t get all that out because now his voice is like SO LOUD and he’s agitated probably because I actually had something to say instead of just “yeah ok sorry” and he’s pacing all over the kitchen and cutting me off every chance he gets.
I tell him there was no reason for the rude texts he’s been sending and he says well there won’t be any more so that’s not an issue. And that he can help out with quiet from 11pm-6am during the week but that’s it. And 11pm-6am DURING THE WEEK and that’s it – over and over. And he just keeps going and half walks away and I’m like, “Look I’ve listened to what you have to say but can I say something?”
And so he actually stops and I get half my sentence out of “My job is exhausting” and he goes “That’s your problem not mine. I don’t care about your job” and slams his bedroom door. Like I couldn’t even finish my sentence at all to say “if the kitchen door is closed, it means I’m trying to sleep so just keep it closed for a bit and then it’s fine”
So basically, I’m going to spend October on a super tight budget to see exactly how much I have left over with my new salary and I’m reading my lease to see how much notice I need to break it. Because I’m not living with a rude arrogant person like that for the rest of the year, feeling like I have to stay in my room all the time because I don’t want to run into him or talk to him.