We interrupt your regular bubbly posts for an angry letter. If you’re actually in a good mood today, please bypass for your own mental health.
Dear Asshat:
I’ve got some things to say and you’re going to listen to them.
Look, I’m going to admit, I’m only like 70% shocked that this has happened. A little bit of me isn’t even surprised.
When I reached out to you over the holidays, I had no idea of getting back together with you. None at all. I didn’t like how we ended over the summer. Things were said that weren’t me and I wanted to apologize for them. It literally had been bugging me since August. I just wanted to smooth things over. I didn’t even anticipate us being friends, especially after how we ended.
So I apologized. And you accepted and returned it. Ya know – adult things. After talking for 30 minutes you asked to meet me for coffee. I was shocked. Since I was out of town we planned for when I got back. That was great – until you disappeared for ten days. I just thought that you had decided you didn’t want to meet up anymore.
Then you pop up again, a family emergency you say? For ten days?! With no text at all? Yeah, whatever. You apologized again, “I’m sorry hun, how can I make it up to you?”
I asked you not to call me hun. I had just started talking to someone nice and I didn’t want you to think that I was available when I wasn’t. You understood but after a few days, your sweetness started up again. You pulled my attention from him. We got right back into our regular vibe. It was nice. I missed that connection. It’s rare to find it with someone and I was willing to work at what we had.
So ya know what I did? I was honest with the other guy! Because I, unlike you, am a decent person. He thanked me for my honesty. BECAUSE HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY!
You and I made plans. I wanted to talk to you in person about us. But then you cancelled. Again. This is your thing. If you weren’t such a flake, you’d be great. At least you told me the day before this time. But since I still wanted to talk to you, I took the leap last night. I asked for your opinion.
What advice do you need?
I want to know your opinion on us.
On us?
Yeah – what do you think we are/want us to be?
Did you want to give it a second try?
And I said “I don’t know” but I wanted to say if we could have an actual conversation about why we ended before, I think we could try. I needed you to be more reliable.
You were out with a friend and wanted to talk later. You wanted to work something out between us. YOUR EXACT WORDS.
And then not even 10 minutes later you text me three paragraphs about how you’re in a relationship?! After JUST SAYING you wanted to work things out? ARE YOU SERIOUS!? Oh, and better still, out of “respect” for her, you don’t think you should continue talking to me. Yeah, good call.
Oh, you’re not good at confrontation and that’s why you didn’t say anything? That’s nice. Telling someone you have a girlfriend with “an amazing woman” is not confrontation. It’s called being a decent person. That text was the hardest you’ve ever had to right? PLEASE! After three weeks you didn’t bring it up ONCE! Not ONCE. Didn’t ask if she could come to our plans with us, not when I asked you to back off because I was starting to see someone myself. That’s a perfect time for “oh no problems, I’m dating too” See how easy that is?!
Now I understand all the last minute cancels. All the flakiness. And guess what – now I also think you’re the biggest poop canoe I’ve met in years. That’s a huge leap from where you were. Congratulations on that. And, in my mind, since you cancelled a lot during the time we were seeing each other, I have now decided that you were probably seeing someone else then. So good luck living that down. If I knew your current girlfriend, I’d fill her in. I feel sorry for her.
Sincerely;
An amazing woman with a temper.
Asshats seem to be rampant here lately. It’s an epidemic. 😏
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Lol!! On my blog or just in general in the world? I’ve got to admit I’ve hit my fair share of them in the last year…😒
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Oh, just in general, the world over. They’re friggin’ everywhere!!!! 😡
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Haha it’s so true!! When I first started online dating, I kept a little series about all the guys and none of them were serious jerks just a little odd and none were a match. But in the last years they have switched to straight up losers haha
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I don’t know. Seems like common courtesy, basic manners, and any need for public decorum have gone extinct…especially since dipshit bought the Oval Office. Wish they’d all crawl back under the rocks from which they slithered. Or that I could beat them all into submission. The ignorant fuckers aren’t worth jail time though. 😡
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Lol you sound like my brother! And you’re right how it seems all those qualities have gone out of style and it’s the saddest thing.
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People will get sick of this shit eventually. I’ll just continue to act with courtesy and manners, and shake my head at the asshats. The only thing I can control is me.
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So true! You can only control your own actions and it’s best to just act with basic decency.
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Yep. If they want to be shit heads, that’s on them, man. I’d hate to be that angry all the time. Sounds miserable to me. 😏
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Same! Although having conversations like the one I had last night zaps me of all my happiness and bubbliness for about a day haha
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That’s one of those “Whatever, dude” scenarios. A tiger is unlikely to change their stripes, ya’ know?
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Definitely is! I’m more angry with myself than I am with him. Once I see my kids and get some silliness into my system it’ll all be good
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They’re good for what ails ya’. 😃
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Always!
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What a prick! I loved reading this though. I’m sorry it happened, but I hope it tells others to speak up and let it out.
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Haha I feel like if I knew his gf I would say something to her but that feels a little petty to me. But I’m glad I found out now and not later!
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Honesty isn’t being petty. I’d tell her if I could. But I feel ya on that! 😊
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Lol *deep breaths* not my problem any more haha
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Exactly 😘. I’m glad you got out of that though. You deserve to be a queen not a side piece. 😊
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Exactly! 👑
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What a loser! Deception of any kind is a red flag- move away from him fast T, and give no 2nd or 3rd chances. His loss, loser asshat
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Oh he has been moved on from! And no more chances! He had SO many opportunities to tell me he had a gf and I wouldn’t even have been upset. You’re right that it’s his loss!
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WTF doesn’t even begin to cover it! Wow!
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Haha agreed!
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BOYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not a man. Little boy.
This is exactly why I give them nicknames depending on what bugged me the most on the date. I also have a dating life update that I need to write and post.
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Yes definitely a boy not a man!
And Oooooo!!! I love dating life updates!
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It’ll be up Thursday hopefully.
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Can’t wait!
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What a douche! I’m so sorry to hear that he was an asshat and I want you to be encouraged that you will find someone better.
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Thanks!
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