Peeps and Meeps, let’s chat, shall we?
Most of you know that I started this blog as a personal journal. I’ve had blogs in the past but never any that had followers. My first follower came about three months after I started my blog. I took a Blogging U course (remember those?!) and suddenly I had people following me!
When that started, I was like WOW! I followed every single person back. It didn’t take too long before I realized that I couldn’t follow everyone back. When I set up my account to have all new posts emailed to me (about 6 months in), I knew that I really couldn’t follow everyone who followed me. Now I have over 950 followers (omg I love you guys SO much!) and it’s a struggle sometimes with my heart on who to follow and who not to.
This idea has kind of been bouncing around in my brain for a while now. Last year, someone followed my blog, and then followed me on Twitter. I followed him back on Twitter, and then he made a passive aggressive comment on one of my tweets, something like “oh nice new post! I have one up too, but you’d know that if you followed me.”
So my darling followers, tell me, do you struggle with this too?
I was in “my reader” because I had to remove someone that I follow (yes it would have been easier to just go to their blog and unfollow but then I would have gotten sucked into reading it and I was being firm!) and I noticed how few blogs I actually follow. I set a limit of 100 for myself when I started to get posts emailed to me. And if you think about it, if every single person I follow posted just once a day, then I’d have 100 emails to go through. That’s a lot. I will never remove someone who follows me but sometimes I do have to clean out who I follow. If I follow you and you’ve been inactive for a few months, I’m probably going to unfollow you. That sounds so harsh, omg! I’m so sorry!
When I started planning out this post like a month ago, I was sitting at around 45ish I think. Now, I’m up to 70. When I follow someone, I want to be able to read their blog and comment and interact with them. I love the connection that comes within the blogging community. I find it weird if someone follows me and never interacts. Don’t you? I can’t always comment on every post, but I make the effort to try to comment on everyone’s blog at least once a week or so.
Sometimes I start out really liking a blog and then it evolves I’m no longer interested. I know the content on this blog changes all the time so I expect people to do the same. Sometimes, I’ll follow someone during one of my challenges (like A to Z for example) and after the challenge is done, their regular content isn’t something that strikes up an interest in me. Sometimes, I’ll follow someone and not realize that they post like 15 times a day and almost every single post is a reblog from someone else. I’m sorry but I just can’t deal.
If I’ve been following someone for a while and then I find myself no longer connecting to their blog, I still find it a struggle to unfollow them. This one time, everytime an email from this one blog would arrive, I would go “uuuggghhhh I am not going to read this, I can’t!” and immediately delete it without even looking at it. It still took me 2 months to unfollow them and even after that I felt incredibly guilty. I literally needed my two closest friends at the time (one blogger and one non-blogger) to tell me it was ok.
But I love finding new blogs to read! So this is a massive struggle within myself, and I’m not even sure if this post is even making sense – and guess what! I’m not going to edit it haha cos I never do.
When I get a new follower, I always check out their page. Lately, if I’m even just the smallest bit interested in their blog I’ll follow back. The “About Me” page usually settles it for me. Then I have a month trial period. It’s a good way to judge if I’ll like their content. I also have a few blogs that I follow on Twitter and not on WordPress. If I find myself reading their posts from Twitter a lot, I’ll go and follow them after. Or sometimes I forget to do that and then it’s been like forever and I just suddenly realize that I don’t actually follow them and then I feel bad because I haven’t taken the time to actually follow them yet. Geez, the emotions I go through!
Do you have a system on who you follow? Are you drawn to certain types of blogs more than others? Do you feel guilty when you feel the need to stop reading someone’s blog? Do you set a limit on how many blogs you follow? Let me know so I don’t think I’m all alone in my neurosis.