Let’s talk about this, shall we?
If you read my last post about my family, you’ll know my parents had a long distance relationship. They lived about a 2-hour drive from each other. Disclosing this got me thinking about long distance relationships. It’s been a little bit of a theme in some of my conversations lately, so I want to hear your thoughts on it.
Obviously, I see my parents and think “oh yeah it totally works”. I have friends who met online playing some sort of game, fell in love and got married. Two friends actually. Both females living in Canada, both males were in the US military. That’s strange but not the point! One couple, still married and happy. The other, it lasted about a year and they got divorced. The one who is happy, he left the military and moved up here, they got married and lived together right away. The other got married while she was visiting him and then she had to come back and they started their visa paperwork for her to move since he was still in the military. She never actually finished the paperwork before they ended things.
Now I’ve had a long-distance relationship, and I’m basically along the “been there, done that, been cheated on, not worth it” type of thinking. Although his reasoning was “we (as in me and him) weren’t having sex anyway so is it really cheating?” Yes. The answer is yes, poop canoe.
My work-fam went to the Carribean for two weeks over Christmas. The main reason was for the wedding of a cousin. That couple had a NINE YEAR long distance relationship. Only seeing each other a few times a year when they could manage the trips back and forth, but they were always emailing and skyping.
My boss mentioned this when I was talking about Mr. Potential. Even though we live about a 15-minute drive away from each other, we would could never even work it out to meet just for coffee. It felt like a long-distance thing with him. My boss offered to let me switch around some work days to make it work, but by that point whatever we had, had fallen apart.
So I personally only have failure in this department, but also I have so many stories of it actually working out.
What are your thoughts? Do you have your own experiences to share?
Just a little clarification: I am not in a long-distance relationship nor am I considering one. This is just for conversation.