Let’s talk about our private bits.
Ok, not like in a weird way, and I guess this is more for the parents out there, but how do you approach the subject of anatomy with your kids?
Do you use the real terms, or make up words, or even just ignore them all together?
I’ve noticed that where I nanny, proper terms for body parts aren’t used. And I think this might be the norm for most families, so I’m wondering what you do with your kids?
4th likes to not take showers or baths. When she does, it’s to have a wrestle with a whale or crocodile and the whole bathroom is soaked when she’s done (she’s getting better at it). The first time I was supervising (standing outside the shower curtain to put liquid soap on her hand whenever it emerged from behind it), she wasn’t having a full on shower but just a rinse (which is exactly the same as a shower in my opinion but she calls it something different so I just roll with it to avoid the tears of having to “take a shower”). I told her just to make sure she washed her private parts before coming out of the water. She didn’t understand so I said: “Imagine you are wearing a bikini, wash the parts that it covers. You know your bum and under your arms and stuff” So now I just use “swimsuit parts” and she gets it.
When talking about boys, the family uses the word “part”. It applies to both humans and the dogs (who are both males). When I first heard it, I was a little confused at what they were talking about. But now I can understand without having to focus on the context of the sentence too much, such as “don’t let him lick your face! He was just licking his part!”
So parents, here’s the thing: when do you start to introduce proper terms to your children? As a teacher, I think this is introduced in grade 1 in Ontario in the health curriculum. Do you use the terms penis, breasts, etc at your house? Is that too much for young children? At what age do you think it’s a good time to switch to using proper terms?
Is there really any good time at all to use them? Or should we follow Oprah’s example and just use words like woo-ha and vajayjay (guys…my spell check actually had the proper spelling for vajayjay…) to save ourselves the embarrassment of using the proper terms? Why are we embarrassed to use the proper terms? Notice how I only did once in 450 words?