Am I really up to part 5 on my online dating thing? I literally have no idea. If not, well it’s part 5 now.
So I haven’t had an update on my dating adventures in a while, so I thought I’d share a tiny bit right now.
- Yes, there are a few guys. See my problem is this: when I find one that gives me that feeling, I get way too involved way too quickly. And then it crushes my soul if it doesn’t work out. I’m an “all in” type of girl. So it takes a pretty special guy to make me have that feeling, but when it’s there BAM it’s there. So I kind of have 2 guys right now. Which is making my give myself all sorts of shade, because I started talking to both on the same day and I think both are kind of cool. Although each has their own pros and cons, and some pretty impressive similarities. BUT one, after like 2 days dropped the L word which freaked me the fudge muffin out. He has an African and Caribbean background so I totally get it. I’ve dated an African before and he was basically the same with the instant affection. So I told him to slow it down a bit.
- I had the best “no thanks” message yesterday! He was so polite and awesome.
- I would have had an actual date last night, but I’ve been sick (3 kids out of 4 sick last week…I had no chance of staying healthy).
- When trying to get over him, it’s best to not have to see his face again. I did my best by deleting messages off my phone and stuff, and he said he was taking a break from the site we met on. That lasted like a week longer than my little break, so on Sunday when I saw his new profile I hid it. No biggie. Then last night A NEW FREAKING PROFILE! GAH hid it again….
- For a little bit of humour, check out this link: 10 Struggles for the Single Christian Lady it’s pretty great!
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The L word so soon!
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I KNOW! As much as I want to be, I’m not a Disney Princess, so saying it before we’ve even met is a huge red flag for me
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Red flag is right. Its a narc flag too. Called love bombing
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I’d say no to the guy who thinks he loves you. That’s creepy as all heck!
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I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks so lol
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Although he was Hot Mess’s choice from our convo the other night haha. She’ll be disappointed
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Yeah… what everyone said… love is a bit strong for not having met. I don’t care what anyone says… things can be PERFECT online and turn to crap in person. It’s another piece of the puzzle — like any other deal-breaker — that has to fit into place or it all goes to hell. So yeah… love before that? That’s not love. It’s infatuation… or a lie. But I’m totally cynical, so, take what I say as you will…
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No – I’m totally skeptical about it too. Like now, every time I get a message (or three) from him, I cringe a little bit. Now to just find a way to *nicely* tell him he’s WAY TOO intense and I’m not interested lol
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Well… my first boyfriend ever… he just stopped calling or speaking to me. You could try that. I’m kidding… he was such a coward in the end… I mean, really. Tell me, don’t make me wonder and guess wtf is going on!
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No I won’t just ghost him. Like at first, I was actually was invested in trying it with him, but now each day I am just doubting it and questioning it more and more on top of his super affectionate messages lol. I’d like someone who I’d be happy to see them calling me not “omg…..should I actually answer?” lol
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Oh yeah, ghost. I forget that crap behavior has a name now. Back then, it was just, ‘he’s a dick.’ 😀
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Haha well I don’t want to be a dick either 😝
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I can be an all in emotionally at first kinda gal. A little codependent of me. Best of !luck in love!
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It will get better. The L word after a couple of days? I don’t know if I like a new food after 2 days much less love someone. Weird.
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I know! I told him he needed to slow that down and he agreed but he’s already “you’re going to make a wonderful wife and mother to my girls” (he’s widowed with twin girls). And I’ve prayed about it, stuck it out, found out he goes to the same church denomination as me, but I still feel uneasy about it. And I think its time to just let it go and move on.
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LOL. If you feel that way then you definitely should move on.
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