It undermines your value as a person

Another foreigner’s experience here in Korea

8 thoughts on “It undermines your value as a person

    • It wasn’t my post, I reblogged from someone else. While I can’t say her story is uncommon, it’s also not the only experience foreigners have here. My first contract I had a great experience. It’s just this one that is giving me problems.

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    • I have lived in Korea for 10 years, been married to a Korean man for 9 of those years and am also a white girl. Her experiences are not unusual but she neglected to discover the reasons behind them all and just labeled it all as racist and/or sexist.

      I am glad she left and I hope her husband’s alcohol problem is solved in the states. It seems like many of her problems were language based rather than cultural and it doesn’t seem like her husband helped her very much with legal issues.

      Some of the things she wrote were untrue, she probably knew no better or was told incorrectly. Some things were indeed cultural. Some were definitely social. It takes skill and practice to not come off as superior here. It is something I struggled with the first few years here. Also, my coworkers realized after a while that I was noting differences rather than declaring which country had it the “right way.”

      To put her experiences a bit in perspective of other people in her same position. She was a part of many Facebook support groups for people in her position. She has now been banned from almost all of them. These are women, mostly, who are very helpful, full of advice and support. They did try to help her but a person needs to be willing to help themselves. I hope her move did that for her.


      • I’d like to think that as human beings we don’t jump to conclusions based on race/gender anymore and that someone who has taken the leap to live in another country would be open minded enough to not judge the new country based on those limitations as well. While I hope that to be true, I am not so naive to think that it is always the case.
        I don’t know the author of the original article personally but I shared her story because it is one that I have heard many times. Taking into consideration other stories she has shared in her blog, I thought it was a story that shows a different experience than my own. Each person’s experience living and teaching here is different from the next, and I think it is important to be able to share those experiences openly.


  1. Everywhere you go as a foreigner you will stand out, feel ”mistreaded” or ”uncomfortable” that’s why you are a foreigner… foreign to the country, it’s culture and ppl.
    The key is how YOU handle the situation… except or/and adapt or even turn it to your favor…trying different angles of point of view.
    You can find thousands of other negative articles about unfairness in other countries but then you are already walking the wrong path. Don’t look for the bad…look for the good!
    Maybe the lady in this story was depressed because of her lack of experiences of different cultures or her marriage. Maybe her husband was too lazy to explain everything and just said at 9pm before bedtime, honey they don’t have it for foreigners. Maybe they were in North Korea. Maybe she is just an annyoing person and ppl really don’t want to talk to her. I can sense by her choice of words (”As soon as I leave Korean soil, I will be a human being again.” ”Because I am not a human being in their eyes.”) that she is very dramatic and overreacting. It’s just sad reading about narrow-minded ppl going to other countries and complain about the differences in culture and rejection of their standards and ideas. I lived in Korea for many years before going back to Germany, and sometimes I felt more home in Korea then in Germany.


    • I can agree with some of what you are saying here, in the sense that we should lool for the good out of situations. But I also think that this woman has the right to her feelings based on her own experience. She isn’t saying that everyone will have the same experience and in other blog posts she mentions other things she liked about her time in Korea. As a fellow foreigner living in Korea, I can see exactly what she means and I have experienced it myself. I also think that people are treated differently based on their gender here. Being a woman here is much different experience – but I guess that can be said for any place in the world. I can’t agree with you about her being dramatic or over reacting. For her to live in one place for 5 years, she has the right to voice her opinion and share she experience as it has happened to her. You enjoyed living in Korea, so did I my first teaching contract, but I can’t say the same this time around. I think its unfair to be so harsh on her for sharing her own experience in her own words.


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