There are a few times where I wish I could give my parents relationship advice. In all honesty, most of these instances occur when my mom is being my mom. And I do have to admit I tend to take my dad’s sides on things. Mostly because my mom is usually being my mom. BUT I came across this article today and I think it has come great advice for both my parents (like the not yelling thing OMG YES!). Not that I would ever think it my place to actually tell them any of these things though. And even though I have basically zero relationship experience, these are tips that I actually have put into practice previously. Maybe not all of them, since I have never been married or lived with a guy I’ve been in a romantic relationship with, but still some solid advice.
The article is called 16 Ways I blew my marriage and here’s how not to blow yours. Catchy title! Check out this guy’s advice.
For those of you who are/have been married, what do you think? Is this guy making some valid points?
That list was depressing for me to read. I’m sure most marriages are not perfect, but damn, my husband is guilty of a LOT of those things… like 12 of them. And to be truthful, I’m guilty of some, too, but closer to 4. No wonder I am miserable so often…
Anyway, yes, I think he is making very valid points. I’d like to have my husband read this… but even I can get him to read it (not sure I can), it will have no impact anyway. I’ve tried similar things before… it doesn’t matter. Can’t make things better if only half of “us” cares enough to try. Just saying, “yes, I do care,” means nothing without actions to support that claim!
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Aww I’m sorry that it made you feel depressed and I hope that you can get him to read it and really READ it. I think a lot of relationships fall into these mistakes that he lists, not just marriages but even friendships. Sure the payouts aren’t the same (he mentions sexy times a lot as a reward) but it’s the effort being put into all kinds of relationships. I know that I am guilty of a few of these in my non-romantic relationships and it takes a toll on them as well. And I totally agree that things wont changes if its only one person caring 😦
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Oh, you don’t have to apologize. It’s okay. I do have moments when I feel worse about things and moments when I feel better… it’s pretty random. And you’re right about these applying to other sorts of relationships, too!
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