It seems like my computer knows exactly what I’m thinking and feeling. Yesterday, after making my post about weddings, there was a Facebook post in my feed called 9 Things Single Women Want Their Married Friends To understand. Now I can’t remember if it was just there, or if one of my friends liked it so it showed up. Either way it was there, and I read it, agreed wholeheartedly with it, and now I’m going to share it with you.
The article was written by Ann Brenoff and can be found on Huff/Post 50 by clicking here. In case you don’t want to go to the effort of reading the whole thing, let me just break Brenoff’s points down for you:
- when are you getting married already?
- speaking of kids – “oh what a shame you never had any”
- think of all the sex you’re missing out on
- you don’t want to grow old alone, now do you?
- aren’t you lonely?
- I can fix you up
- you are just to smart for all the men out there
- I didn’t invite you because you would have felt like a third wheel
- I know you’re only just kidding yourself when you say you’re happy.
I agree with all of these statements! And would like to add (for all those fatties out there) Don’t worry, you have an amazing personality! You just haven’t found the one yet.
It is a tad bit ridiculous that women are expected to be married to be happy. I am perfectly happy in my life right now without being married. I actually kind of think that I wouldn’t have my life if I was married, and I probably wouldn’t have had as many great experiences if I had married when society (and my mother) expected me to (before I turned 25).
I remember when I graduated from my undergrad, and I bought a class ring. I was so proud of myself for actually graduating, because for a little bit there it didn’t look like I would have made it. Not only did I come back from academic probation, but I also was able to keep my “honors” designation and my double major! I was proud!! So I bought a class ring, and it was expensive, around $500. I was wearing it to church one day, and a girl there (who got married a week after she turned 20) said “for that much money why wouldn’t you just buy an engagement ring?!” I rolled my eyes, and kind of looked at her like she was stupid and replied “because I’m not engaged?”
Since it’s 2016, I think it’s time to let go of what seems to be one of the last threads connecting us to past expectations of women. Women can have careers and children, college/university isn’t just for finding a husband anymore but for education, women and men both have the choice to stay home and be the primary caregiver to their children, women run companies and start enterprises and are taken seriously in the professional world. Yet there is still this notion that in order to be truly happy, a woman has to be married. It’s time to move past that. And once someone figures out a way to make that transition easy, let me know so I can pass it along to my parents 😉